Success – Why Your 5 Closest Friends Matter

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn

This famous quote by Jim Rohn became further popularized by Tim Ferriss and Tony Robbins, two of the biggest names in the motivational speaker community.  So do your 5 closest friends determine your success?

Think about the people you closely associate with.  If you’re truly looking for more motivation in your life or want to further you passions, it helps to reflect.

Ask yourself some questions.  Do the people closest to me….

  • make me a better person?
  • brighten up my day?  
  • motivate me to work harder?  
  • have something that I want?

If you can’t answer ‘yes’ to any of those questions, then what do these people in your life have to offer you?  They could, in fact, be bringing you down or stopping you from being a better version of yourself.

Why Do Friends Change Over Time?

Look back at friends that maybe have disappeared from your life over the years and ask yourself why?  Was it your own doing?  Was it theirs?  At some point, someone made a choice to move on.

Perhaps, you went to college and your friends started the workforce and over time your ideals separated.  Maybe you continued to pursue the bachelor/bachelorette life and your friends got married and their focus became family.  Regardless of the reasoning, those choices have profound impacts on how your life grows.

A persons value doesn’t have to be determined by a dollar amount.  If your friends bring you joy, don’t dump them thinking that they’re not making you rich.  That’s a stupid thought.

Go watch the movie, ‘Scrooged’, with Bill Murray and see where that got him in his life. 

Another good one, ‘The Family Man’, with Nicolas Cage.

For myself, my friends are as close to me as family and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.  But as they grow, I grow, so it’s important that we maintain the same values.  Tim Ferriss went on to further elaborate the famous quote from Jim Rohn.

But you are the average of the five people you associate with most, so do not underestimate the effects of your pessimistic, unambitious, or disorganized friends. If someone isn’t making you stronger, they’re making you weaker.”— Tim Ferriss

While it makes a lot of sense, it also allows you to do some reflecting.  After all, you don’t want to be the weak link in the chain.  Everyone in your circle should offer something that the other one might not.

Off With Their Heads!

Do your five closest people in your life really define your success and happiness?  Absolutely, but don’t just shun your friends either without giving them a chance!  Help them if their having a hard time and I’m sure they’ll help you later on when you need it.  Be the leader and pave a path and maybe they’ll take the lead in the future.

If time has passed and your friends don’t come around, you may need to let them go.  In fact, I had a friend that pushed away most of his close friends over the years.  I was one of the last ones, trying desperately to hang on.  Eventually, the energy was no longer worth it and I had to let him go.  A 20 year friendship, over.  Sometimes it’s not easy.

It’s Not Just Your Friends

Your life force isn’t just dictated by your friends.  It’s dictated by all of the other people in your life; spouse, family, co-workers, gym partners, etc..

Think about the people you work with.  Are they motivating and energetic or are they pessimistic and condescending?  Your attitude towards you how feel about your work is very dependent on how you feel about your coworkers.

Don’t let a few bad apples sour how you feel about a certain career path.  If it’s not likely that they will leave or exit anytime soon, maybe it’s time you pursued another company.

Make Adjustments

Usually, life has a way of making this happen for you, but it’s important that you intervene and re-evaluate yourself.  Whether it’s your career, friendship, or relationship, it helps to know think about how each and every one of those people adds value into your daily life.

Don’t let those pessimists into your daily life and suck you down the rabbit hole.

You’ll be sure to join them eventually!

Are you the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with?

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